This blogg post is inspired by South African businessman Milton Mbele.
Milton Mbele surprised many people when he married four wives on one day. Thobile Vilakazi, Zanele Langa, Baqinisile Mdlolo and Smangele Cele walked down the aisle together. Mbele of Kwazulu-Natal had a white wedding that was celebrated by many. According to reports the wedding cost a total of R150 000 including 32 cows, eight cattle and the celebrations lasted for three days.
Personally this is interesting. Yes there are polygamous marriages; even our president is in a polygamous marriage. However, he married his wives over a course of years, not one day. So what is Polygamy all about in this generation, Love or Greed?
I respect the practice. I believe that if there is mutual respect, true love and a man can financially afford to be in a polygamous marriage, than it is his right.
However, why is this practice still existent today? In the past, generally speaking, marriage was about protection and financial security. But most of today’s women are independent, financially stable etc. Does Mbele prove that women are marrying for love more than anything else?
According to Dumisani Hlophe and Busani Ngcaweni,authors of Blot on Polygamy ,Mbele has fostered the misconception that polygamy is a grab of women. I agree with statement. I personally feel Mbele diminished the traditional practice. He has managed to turn it into a media circus and maybe not intentionally.
Listening to Radio 2000, many callers commented immensely on this topic. One caller felt Mbele was a greedy man, while one stated that it was impossible to satisfy all these women, especially in the economic climate.
Solly, one of the callers raised an attention-grabbing point-Mbele was doing the right thing. Instead of having relationships with multiple lovers and encouraging the habit of men having mistresses, it was best Mbele married them all,”rather than having them on the side.”
A female caller from KwaZulu-Natal wanted to know why polygamy was only for males. She felt that if women practiced polygamy they would be blasphemed and in some cases killed like many controversial issues dealt with in South Africans.
I think we all can discuss Mbele choice of marriage till we blue in the face. Thobile Vilakazi, Zanele Langa, Baqinisile Mdlolo and Smangele Cele are their own person. They chose to dedicate their lives to one man. Their loyalty is an individual choice. These four women have made their choice, to love and cherish their husband.
Milton Mbele surprised many people when he married four wives on one day. Thobile Vilakazi, Zanele Langa, Baqinisile Mdlolo and Smangele Cele walked down the aisle together. Mbele of Kwazulu-Natal had a white wedding that was celebrated by many. According to reports the wedding cost a total of R150 000 including 32 cows, eight cattle and the celebrations lasted for three days.
Personally this is interesting. Yes there are polygamous marriages; even our president is in a polygamous marriage. However, he married his wives over a course of years, not one day. So what is Polygamy all about in this generation, Love or Greed?
I respect the practice. I believe that if there is mutual respect, true love and a man can financially afford to be in a polygamous marriage, than it is his right.
However, why is this practice still existent today? In the past, generally speaking, marriage was about protection and financial security. But most of today’s women are independent, financially stable etc. Does Mbele prove that women are marrying for love more than anything else?
According to Dumisani Hlophe and Busani Ngcaweni,authors of Blot on Polygamy ,Mbele has fostered the misconception that polygamy is a grab of women. I agree with statement. I personally feel Mbele diminished the traditional practice. He has managed to turn it into a media circus and maybe not intentionally.
Listening to Radio 2000, many callers commented immensely on this topic. One caller felt Mbele was a greedy man, while one stated that it was impossible to satisfy all these women, especially in the economic climate.
Solly, one of the callers raised an attention-grabbing point-Mbele was doing the right thing. Instead of having relationships with multiple lovers and encouraging the habit of men having mistresses, it was best Mbele married them all,”rather than having them on the side.”
A female caller from KwaZulu-Natal wanted to know why polygamy was only for males. She felt that if women practiced polygamy they would be blasphemed and in some cases killed like many controversial issues dealt with in South Africans.
I think we all can discuss Mbele choice of marriage till we blue in the face. Thobile Vilakazi, Zanele Langa, Baqinisile Mdlolo and Smangele Cele are their own person. They chose to dedicate their lives to one man. Their loyalty is an individual choice. These four women have made their choice, to love and cherish their husband.
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